Planning Your Special Day

The Wedding Timetable - First Steps

The first thing you will plan for your wedding is your budget. Talk between yourselves and your respective parents about the kind of service you would like. You will find that your parents will be of enormous help to you in discussing your budget. On your very special day you will want the best of everything, so plan carefully the style and tone of the day.

When you have decided, visit your Vicar/Priest or Registrar and make the arrangements for your marriage ceremony. They will be of great help to you both, and explain everything you will need to know about walking up the aisle and saying "I do". If you wish, a rehearsal can be arranged to set your minds at ease and to assure you that it will all be perfect on your wedding day. Take this opportunity to apply for a marriage licence if necessary.

Now might also be the ideal time to decide on who you will ask to be 'Chief Bridesmaid' and 'Best Man'

 

The Wedding Countdown - 

18 - 12 months

Once you have decided the date and place for your wedding, it is important to remember the following points. In descending order your family will generally remember the following:

  1. How beautiful the bride looked.

  2. How wonderful the ceremony was.

  3. The reception.

Think about it. Now is certainly the time to be choosing carefully your wedding dress and reception venue.

Other important things to be arranged now are as follows:

  1. Book the photographer and videographer.

  2. Book the transport.

  3. Book the toastmaster if required.

  4. Decide on the number of guests and make a list.

  5. Order the invitations.

  6. Book the honeymoon and apply for passports.

  7. Decide on the bridesmaids and ushers.

  8. Order the wedding cake.

You have now put in place an excellent framework for the build up  to your big day. Hopefully, you now have a team of professionals all working towards making sure it is a day to remember, and for all the right reasons.

6 months

Time for some fun! Lets organise a wedding present list (Don't forget that a lot of stores will now help you with this.) Having already organised your dress you will probably have a colour scheme in mind for the bridesmaids dresses. Now is the time to be co-ordinating these as well.

Once the colour scheme is decided it is probably time to start ordering the flowers for bouquets, church, and reception if required.

Other items to arrange now are:

  1. Hire of the suits for the bridegroom, best man, fathers and ushers.

  2. Initial fitting of the dress.

  3. Choosing the wedding rings.

While you're on the phone, now might be the ideal time to organise appointments with your hairdresser and beauty salon, to make sure you look at your most beautiful on the big day.

3 months

Now is the time to be sending out the wedding invitations. This would also be the ideal time to be escorting 'mums' into town to organise their outfits (Don't forget the hats!)

Also:-

  1. Choose hymns and choice of music

  2. Arrange for the "Order of Service" sheets to be printed.

6 weeks

You should now be fairly well organised and in the envious position of sitting back and relaxing for a couple of weeks in the full knowledge that there are a whole host of people out there worrying on your behalf. However, on your one weekend off between now and the big day, it might be an excellent idea to nip out and choose some presents for the bridesmaids, and perhaps some flowers for the mums.

4 weeks

The pace is starting to hot up now. It's time to see whether everyone else has been as organised as you.

  1. Confirm the reception venue booking, and numbers attending.

  2. Confirm details with the photographer.

  3. Confirm the wedding cars.

  4. Confirm details with the florist and give final numbers for buttonhole.

  5. Confirm travel and hotel bookings for the honeymoon. N.B. Check passport

10 - 7 days 

If your haven't organised a rehearsal of the ceremony now might be a good time to meet with the best man, bridesmaids and ushers to finalise arrangements and responsibilities.

  1. Practice your make-up.

  2. Take the headdress to your hairdresser

  3. Give the 'Order of Service' sheets to the vicar.

And, perhaps most importantly of all...

START PACKING FOR THE HONEYMOON.

One Day to Go

Try and delegate as much work as possible. Have you beauty treatment, finish off any packing that still remains to be done for the honeymoon, lay out your wedding  and going away ensemble, relax and put your feet up.

The Wedding Day

Assuming a 2pm wedding, the bride's timetable will run something like this:-

8.00 Have a shower or relaxing bath.

8.30 Have a good breakfast.

9.00 Paint your nails.

9.30 Hairdressers.

11.00 Best man arrives to collect the luggage/ greetings cards/ telegrams.

11.30 The bridesmaids/ pageboys arrive.

12.00 Make-up.

12.30 The bride and bridesmaids dresses.

1.00 The photographer arrives.

1.30 The first car takes the mother and bridesmaids to the church. The bridesmaids then wait in the church entrance.

1.45 The second car takes the bride and her father to the church.

1.58 Wait in church entrance and line bridesmaids up behind you. The verger will greet you.

2.00 Ceremony. GOOD LUCK!